There are those who study kissing, and they explain how most people turn their head to the right when kissing, how Eskimos and Polynesians rub their noses together to kiss, and how people who live in trendy places like St.Tropez kiss each other on each cheek upon greeting. Experts even note that in Hollywood, where acting has influenced tradition, these kisses on the cheek don¡¯t actually land, but are instead ¡°air kisses¡±, meant to imitate intimacy without actually practicing it.
In traditional Asian cultures like Japan, for instance, kissing has sometimes been replaced by a courteous bow, because this is a sign of polite affection. Throughout ancient history, those who bowed in public reserved their actual kisses for times of complete privacy, unlike today when people meeting in airports, at the disco, or on a park bench seem to not only kiss but take things even further, without regard for gawking strangers.

So Good it Must Be Illegal!

But in conservative places, like for instance the USA, kissing has even been made illegal. One state has a law against kissing strangers, one has a law against "habitually kissing", and one is reported to have a law against kissing on Sunday. Of course these ordinances against smooching were created during the 18th Century Puritanical era, and most are not generally enforced, and if they ever made it into court, they would probably be kissed good-bye for good.

I can¡¯t speak in French, I only know how to kiss in it. There are others who don¡¯t know any of the anthropological or sociological explanation for kissing, and who couldn¡¯t give a fig what some scientist or historian says about the subject. These folks, who are in the majority, just want to do it and do it right. As one friend of ours ? who has no aptitude for foreign languages ? is fond of saying ¡°I can¡¯t speak in French, I only know how to kiss in it.¡±

Most women complain that men who are ¡°bad kissers¡± make three basic mistakes. They kiss too hard, suffocating their partner or making her feel that she is going to be crushed; they kiss too hurriedly, (which usually indicates that will do other affectionate things too hurriedly); and last but most of all, they kiss too sloppy.

Nobody likes a sloppy kiss, unless it is from a pet sheep dog. Kisses are not meant to drown us in saliva, only in affection. The way to avoid a wet, sloppy, drenching, and ultimately repugnant kiss is to pay attention to the other two warnings about smothering and rushing.


If a kiss is done slowly and tenderly, it will never run the risk of being sloppy and disgusting. Kisses are meant to tease and excite, and sometimes they feel more passionate when they are less enthusiastic.
The touch of the lips is usually sufficient to curl a woman¡¯s toes, and if you want to kiss a girl the right way, do it softly and don¡¯t hurry to squeeze her mouth against yours. If she likes it, she¡¯ll let you know, and you don¡¯t have to worry about leading the charge. Consider it a reward for having to learn to do the leading on the dance floor. Kissing is an opportunity to let the woman lead for a change.

When we kiss, the body does some pretty amazing and physiologically complex things, and all of them are fantastic fun. The chemistry in the mouth changes when humans kiss, and so do the chemicals released in the brain. All of these miraculous ingredients of nature work together to make us feel excited, happy, sexually aroused, and ready to kiss again and again and again.

Kisses are indeed like potato chips ? but in one way and one way only, lest you take this example too seriously ? in that it is hard to have just one, because they increase your appetite for more. What more could we expect of a good kiss? And the best part is that it all happens naturally, without us having to do a thing to manipulate the chemistry of our partner.

It's In His Kiss

There is a pop song that declares ¡°it¡¯s in his kiss¡±, and the song explains that if there is anything you want to learn about a man, you can find out from one kiss. For this reason, many women surveyed say that if a man is not a good kisser, they won¡¯t go out with him any more, and if a man¡¯s first kiss does the trick for them, they can predict with reasonable certainty that he will be a great lover.

That is because the ingredients in a first kiss ? patience, listening and waiting for the physical clues from your partner, playful teasing, and passionate physical attraction ? are the same qualities found in an exceptional lover.

Once you master one kiss, the rest is easy. After all, practice makes perfect, and if you become an expert kisser, you will get all the practice you can stand.