Question:

I have a question: What if the gal has a boyfriend?

I mean of course I don't ask her this not to seem needy or insecure but anyway. Should I attempt to flirt with her?


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Answer:

If she has a boyfriend, go work on a woman who doesn't.

I get this question a lot, and I'm beginning to wonder if there are a lot of guys who have a learning disability around this area.

Men get obsessed and interested in the one they can't get rather than the ones that are all around them.

At any given moment, probably half the women you are near are interested or ready for a new guy in their life. They're AVAILABLE.

That being said, you can flirt with her, but keep in mind that if she responds she is an attention hound (needs her self-esteem validated), or she likes getting her boyfriend jealous, or she's looking for a way out of her current relationship. I'll leave it up to you to figure out which.

One will leave you with a low self-esteem women. One could land you in a fight. And the last one could leave you in a heartbreaking rebound relationship.

What a choice.

But why not find the ones that are ready and willing, and you don't have to worry about a drunk, psychotic boyfriend showing up at your door at 2:00 AM?

Women who are already attached like this attention because chances are the guy they're with doesn't give them enough. You're SAFE for her to be around, because she doesn't have to put out, and you also give her all the attention and adulation she needs. AND you get her boyfriend jealous and paying her more attention.

Meaning: She gets everything she wants, and you get just about NOTHING.

What a deal! Sign me up... NOT!